This morning, my sister sent a blog link, http://aleafinspringtime.wordpress.com/2012/11/15/a-guide-to-the-dark-side/
I know I meander in my thinking and writing a lot of the time but I’m really a bottom-line and short-attention-span kind-of-person so clear, concise messages appeal to me. After reading the blog, a question resurfaced. I’ve pondered it recently while reading Tolle and The Untethered Soul…if I’m not my emotions and mind voices, then who am I? All of my life I had determined who I was by what now I understand were egoic standards, what I do – not who I am. That identity has changed over my lifetime. I also unconsciously sensed that I was more than my self-description but never put conscious thought to it until recently.
I’ve known most of my life that my gut is my guide. It is how I understand my life. I have so far been able to consistently depend on God speaking to me this way. It’s about the only constant in my life. And I am a good listener. Also, without much thought, I’ve known that my gut is always right and I’ve felt very certain of my decisions when I had that gut knowing. But I don’t always get it when I think I need it and that is when I’ve started, in the past, to question if what I’m hearing in my mind voice is God speaking – or not. Well, now I know it is not. I will question no more. I will quiet myself and wait for my gut knowing.
I didn’t understand the role of the mind chatter and have spent untold hours of emotional pain and anguish, endured many sleepless nights because I engaged and listened and tried to make decisions from there. Until recently, I didn’t know I had a choice!
I don’t have a problem with all of this when things are going well. My mind voice gives me some useful information. It’s when I feel anger, fear, distrust – all of the negative stuff…that’s when the negative mind voices kick in. And they are scolding, accusing, bring up the worst case scenario – every time – just plain negative thoughts. They intensify feelings of regret and insecurity… and on and on…
I’m sure I heard or read this somewhere but I’ve found that if I try to watch my thoughts – ask myself, “What are my thoughts right now, what am I thinking?”, I realize I have no thoughts when I’m doing that. It helps clear my mind. Sounds confusing maybe, but try it and see if it works for you. Deepak Choprah says to concentrate attention on our hands, sensations, tingling. It breaks the mind cycle. That works for me as well.
After reading several books and listening to many “messengers”… Oprah, Iyanla, Michael Singer, Maya Angelou, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra..and others, learning to observe the chatter patterns – I was finally able to put it all together today. I know that life unfolds and goes on, the sun comes up and goes down, seasons pass… Life doesn’t cause problems for me. Challenges, yes. I’ll bet my problems could almost always be traced back to the negative, dark side mind voices that are full of misinformation and making problems from my inner issues! I’m becoming more and more aware of that.
Back to who I really am, while talking about it with my sister this morning, I chuckled to myself. Funny! I suddenly remembered that I had already figured out who I really am. I had just forgotten for a moment. In the last month, after Deepak Choprah ask Oprah who she really is, I decided to define myself. Here I am, 72 years old and I finally figured out that my name (label) is Sharon, and none of my accomplishments define who I am. They’re a part of what I do, not who I am.
God put me here, in human form, to express who He is in spiritual form. I’m a spiritual being, an expression of God. I’m here to express His love, service, grace, peace, comfort, mercy, encouragement – all good things that He is. A reminder of how I want – and need – to respond, initiate, live my life in a more purposeful way. I’m a student and a listener living in abundance, passion and love. Yes!
My spiritual identity, who I really am, is one that that doesn’t change. Describing what I do is so different from how I do the things I do. My challenge is to remember why and how I choose to “do” my life. I have clear guidelines.
What a difference a day makes! And as usual, I need to write my new AHA moment down so that I don’t forget who I am again… Chuckle.