I’m on R&R. I’m with my sister. In her home. Away from my city and in her territory. It’s where she’s lived her entire life. It’s where we grew up but the area and people have changed. My childhood haunts are long gone. Stores have different names. Few landmarks remain. And the old memories are interesting and intense…
Being with my Sister is being with the best part of me. I hear about the closeness of twins – that describes my closeness to my Sister. It’s been so for as long as I can remember. When we were younger, we kidded that we thought we were each other. Family and friends referred to us as the cup and saucer. Hmmm… Now that we’re in the later years of our lives, we still have a wonderful sisterhood and friendship. In many ways, she is a sense of “being home” to me.
There are just the two of us in her home during my visit. I love her husband – he’s been my brother for almost 60 years and I just love being with him too. But this is a morning of contentment, ease, acceptance, peace, freedom. My Sis is upstairs writing and I’m downstairs writing. We met in the kitchen for a few moments earlier to say that we were headed back to our rooms – and laughed.
I’m so grateful that we still have each other in our lives. I chuckle when I think back over the stages of our lives, hairstyles (a lifetime of mimicking each others’ haircuts and colors have become a family joke!) and clothes! So trippy! So many memories, so many stories.
I just sent her a text asking where she keeps her lemon squeezer. I kept looking and found it before she answered. I’ll bet she’s smiling at my second text telling her I found it. It’s an endearing/not so endearing ( I feel) trait of mine – asking before I’ve looked very far. I think my sense of efficiency (why spend time looking if someone knows the answer already) sometimes prompts me to ask before I look for very long. (Qualifier….And then again – sometimes I spend way too much time searching for answers – just for the challenge.)
It’s the littlest things that are making this visit good for my soul. My sister. We don’t need words to understand each other but we’ve been known to talk most of the night – and day. At other times we can sit in the same room playing word games on our phones – with each other! Or read and not speak for hours. Our being within eye contact and hugging distance is enough.
Attention, affection, appreciation and acceptance. My Sister and I. Basic needs. Check!
Sister – You are one of the best things in my life, the wind beneath my wings – and I cherish our relationship. I love you.
And I’m so happy to be with you again for a bit.
Yes! The sun is shining!
And will you cut my hair just like yours?
Oprah’s Lifeclass Lesson 7: Aging Beautifully
Oprah’s Lifeclass – Today’s Question: What is the best thing and the hardest thing about being my age?