Can we get some sage words on experiences?…..


A comment on my post on the Abundance Challenge brought up a good question  – one that I think would be a great topic for comment.  Hope to hear from you.

Questions:  “How do you keep doubt away when your finances are in an upheaval …how can I attract not lack but abundance?” (in that struggle and mind frame – I’m adding)

My Response:  I hear you!  I wish I knew the answers but since I don’t, all I can add, relative to my own experience,

  • Every day, I set time aside to listen to inspiring books or music (usually during my walk), read (usually during my bath or at bedtime)  and repeat in my head and sometimes aloud, my intentions.
  • Having a truly grateful heart for what I do have and trying to focus on that helps to eventually get me thru to my answers – and accept what is right now so that I can move forward.  “They” say that what we focus on grows.  And I believe that.
  • Looking for the lesson in my situation and trying to learn from it helps.  My lessons are usually not  what they look like – outer, but always about the inner me – my thoughts and therefore my behaviors that influence my feelings about my situation.  My situation is whatever it is right now.  My emotions that I attach to my situation cause my turmoil – or not.  Sometimes it requires me to be very still and listen.  And again be grateful.

I’ve written in the past about lessons that I learned from drastic and very traumatic financial loss and adjustments  in my post-successful-career life that required, in retrospect, pretty minor shifts in my thinking (not easy – just minor) that initiated major changes in me and therefore my life.   Meaningful changes – for the better.  Way better.  Everyone’s lessons are different but  it seems to me that some of the same principles seem to apply.   We seem to have to go thru discomfort to get motivated to pay attention to our lesson?  I don’t know….

 

I think I did it for a laugh…but was it worth it?


Years ago, I made an unkind comment about a shirt-tail relative’s child in front of my children who were all young adults at the time.  Even while I was saying the words, I was thinking how wrong I was.  But I finished the thoughtless remark, got a lot of shocked laughter from my children.  They voiced disbelief and amused  surprise that I would be the one making an unkind observation, especially about a child!

That was years ago.  Long ago, I told all of my kids that I regretted my remarks.    Because of divorce, I haven’t seen the child in many years but my children recently saw her and reported that she had grown into an exceptionally attractive woman.

A couple of evenings ago at a party, a comment from a guest brought back my memory and I heard myself relating my story.  I just blurted it right out – a short version.   I realized that it was time to finally forgive myself.

I’m so grateful that the child was protected from hearing.   That makes self-forgiveness somewhat easier.  It was  an indelible lesson for me – and I think, my children.

No one but my children heard my comment -and they clearly know it is  one that I wish I had never uttered.  I’ve sometimes felt regret that they still remember.   But then….no, I choose to believe it was a lesson for all of us.

I’m so grateful that none of my children are critical of others.  In fact, I think that they’re exceptionally accepting of, and kind to others.

A lesson learned.   And so very grateful it was without harm to that little person.